10 EFFECTIVE WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR WIFE WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELINGS
Many a time husbands do not know how to correct their wives without making things worse. Here we have 10 ways husbands can effectively talk to their wives about issues they don't like without upsetting her.
1. Do not shout at her
Whenever there's an altercation, do not make the mistake of raising your voice higher than hers. It will not send a clearer message but only make her to raise hers even higher than yours. Let her speak then use a calm voice to call her attention to where she hurt you.
2. Let your correction be done in love
Correction can easily be seen as condemnation or criticism if not done in love. Brutality doesn't always solve the problem, most times it leads to more underlying problems. I'd suggest you put her in your shoes and you in hers...while using a calm voice, make it also a memorable moment.
3. Let your correction be done in love
While correcting her, don't ever make the mistake of criticising her...you do not want to be seen as someone who doesn't appreciate the things she has been doing.
Take for example, two husbands correcting their wives about the same issue.
Husband 1 says:
What kind of food is this? Is this popcorn or rice? Didn't your parents train you well? Is there anything you can do well?
Husband 2 says:
Honey this rice is too salty unlike the one you prepared the last time. Where you thinking about me and got carried away while preparing it?
Husband 1 criticised and Husband 2 corrected in love while making the moment more romantic. Both passed the same message but they will certainly have different results.
4. Praise her when it is done right.
We have a habit of correcting/condemning people when they've done something wrong but we hardly praise them for doing the right thing. Form a habit of always praising her for the things she's doing right. This assures her that your love for her isn't going cold.
5. Don't correct her in the presence of the children.
Avoid all altercations with your wife in the presence of your children. You do not want to make her look small or inadequate. You definitely do not want the children to repeat your words to her. This will also help the children in their own relationships when they are older.
To be continued tomorrow....
0 comments:
Post a Comment